Caring & Committed

EFT for Couples

The greatest gift a parent has to give a child—and a lover has to give a lover—is emotionally attuned attention and timely responsiveness. ~Sue Johnson (Creator of EFT)

EFT for Couples
You are probably on this page because your relationship is going through a crisis or you simply want to improve your relationship. Many couples care about each other but somehow they missed attuning to their partners. If you need help with your relationship, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help you reconnect with your partner.

What is EFT?
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short term evidence-based couple therapy that is based in attachment theory and experiential-systematic model. A couple often gets stuck in their negative cycle (dance) because of their strong emotions. By working through these emotions and develop appropriate emotional responses, the couple can change their dance, learn a better way of connecting, and create a secure bond. Research finds that 70-75% of EFT couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% shows significant improvement.

Herman and his team are EFT trained therapists. Herman is a certified EFT therapist and supervisor. We can help you establish a secure bond with your significant other.

What to expect in EFT for couples?
This is what you can expect when you see an EFT therapist for couple therapy: In the first session, both of you will meet with the therapist. You will share your situation and stuck points. Together with your therapist, you will begin to identify your negative cycle. In the second and third sessions, you will each meet with the therapist individually to do an attachment history, i.e. what did you learn about doing relationship while growing up? These are important sessions because they help us understand how your past affects your present relationship. Whatever is discussed in the individual sessions is summarized and discussed in the subsequent sessions. The therapist will not keep any secret. After that in subsequent sessions, you will both meet with the EFT therapist. You will learn to de-escalate the conflict, work together to change the dance, and building a secure bond between the two of you.

If you are interested, you can watch the following videos by Dr. Sue Johnson, the creator of EFT, to better understand EFT?

What is EFT?

Soothing the threatened brain

Infant and Adult Love

Dr. Sue Johnson and Herman Chow
Sue Johnson and Herman Chow

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